mamastiles:

men don’t get to decide what is misogynistic

straight people don’t get to decide what it homophobic

cis people don’t get to decide what is transphobic

white people don’t get to decide what is racist

people in positions of power

don’t get to decide what is considered oppression

that’s how we move backwards, not forwards

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brigidkeely:

plaidadder:

brigidkeely:

plaidadder:

theblackclitocracy:

commanderbishoujo:

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angiewrites:

Surya Bonaly
 is famous for her backflip landed on only one blade; she is considered the only skater in the world capable of this move

Why am I just now hearing about her??????

Because you’re young. She retired from amateur competition after the ‘98 Nagano Olympics and never medalled at the Olympics in her career, but she did win gold at Europeans a bunch of times and silvered at Worlds a few times.
The main thing to understand about Surya Bonaly’s career as a skater is that figure skating is racist as fuck and she never fit the image of a skater, to judges or to commentators. Race and colorism were a huge fucking factor in how she was evaluated and discussed—she’s French, born in Nice, but her (white) adoptive parents lied and said she was born off Madagascar and abandoned by her birth parents to make her seem more ~exotic~, to give you an idea.
Commentators were especially horrid to her and loved to praise her for her “athletic” style but would always criticize her for not being ~artistic~ enough and she always got dinged on artistic presentation. She would always do well in the short program on technical marks and then the long program would be her achilles heel because of how heavily artistic presentation was weighted. (For the younger among you, this is pre-SLC so this is when the old judging system was still being used.) 
More proof of how fucked skating is: Surya is also the only woman to my knowledge to ever land a quad toe loop in competition or even attempt one and to this day they don’t want to credit her with actually landing it, because all four rotations were not completed in air. Granted, there is a fair case to be made that it was only a triple, but don’t doubt that race played a role in that. They hated on this woman from the minute she got on the ice.
And yes, she landed that famous backflip on one blade at the 98 Olympics in her long program as one last FU to the system that had been fucking her for her whole career. Which is the real reason you should know who she is, tbh. Never was there a badder bitch on ice.

I remember when my mother threw her slipper at a television when Surya was receiving her marks in 1994 at Lillehammer.

Why yes. I will reblog Surya Bonaly.
And it’s not just youth, either. I was following figure skating pretty closely in the 1990s and my wife and I still have these moments like, “What was her name…that skater from France with the backflip…” “OH! I know exactly who you’re talking about, but I can’t remember…was it…” “Did it start with an S, maybe?”
But she was awesome. Now, I certainly agree with the above poster on the “figure skating is racist as fuck” thing, but that’s far from the only way in which the fuckedness of Olympic figure skating manifested itself in the 90s. In addition to not being able to get over Surya’s African descent, there was this rigid adherence to a particular feminine ideal of body type and style that was a disadvantage to any woman whose self-presentation was ‘too’ athletic and insufficiently pretty. You could get away with that if you were Katarina Witt and you sexed up the judges just as hard as you could the whole time you were out there, but otherwise, they had a real preference for slender and willowy. Same aesthetic that governs ballet, and whose psychotic enforcement by the men in charge makes the film _Black Swan_ so unbelievably painful that I could barely get through it.
Then there’s the ways in which my favorite pairs team, Shen and Zhao, got penalized by European and American judges over and over again for their programs not conforming to Western ideas of romance. They were so wedded to the heterosexual romance narrative as the template for evaluating these routines. I’d be listening to them talk about how they don’t have enough ‘artistic expression’ and yelling at the TV, “Did you fucking SEE that throw jump? Forget ‘romance.’ THEY CAN FLY!”
Sorry. I guess my feels about this are still strong within me.

Just want to point out that privileging a specific body type (slender and willowy) can also be racist. Black (and Latina & Native) female bodies are REGULARLY and ROUTINELY attacked for being too sexual or too masculine (or too fat, see criticisms of the Williams Sisters & Taylor Townsend in the predominantly white world of tennis, frex). There are a handful of sports that are still coded incredibly white (and wealthy), and figure skating is one of them (along with tennis, ballet, and dressage). So bodies perceived as non-white or not-white-enough get dinged for being “wrong”— for being too sexy, too muscled, too square, too squat, too whatever— and that is used as an excuse to score the performer lower. Wrong body. Wrong artistry. Wrong.

Sorry, I didn’t mean to imply that the body ideal thing is separable from racism, but I can see how from that comment it looks like I did. I guess my point was that this demand to conform to that body ideal impacts everyone in the sport, though I am sure it was and remains a much bigger problem for skaters who aren’t white. In fact, as I think about it, the only other ladies’ figure skater of African descent that I can remember hitting the big time was Debi Thomas; and she took a lot of crap about her ‘style’ too.
Since I don’t follow figure skating any more I have no idea whether it’s different now, but my guess is no. 

I wasn’t trying to CORRECT you or anything, I just think it’s a thing that (white) people OFTEN over look, to the point where you have an elite athlete like Taylor Townsend castigated for “being fat” when she’s an incredibly active well-muscled person. The Williams sisters both got this, in addition to having people mock their bodies by, like, sticking cushions under their pants to “dress up” as them. You know? CF also Nicki Minaj getting shit for her cover of “Anaconda” while similar images grace the cover of Sports Illustrated: Swimsuit Edition with no shocked outcry.


For me later.

brigidkeely:

plaidadder:

brigidkeely:

plaidadder:

theblackclitocracy:

commanderbishoujo:

brownglucose:

angiewrites:

Surya Bonaly

 is famous for her backflip landed on only one blade; she is considered the only skater in the world capable of this move

Why am I just now hearing about her??????

Because you’re young. She retired from amateur competition after the ‘98 Nagano Olympics and never medalled at the Olympics in her career, but she did win gold at Europeans a bunch of times and silvered at Worlds a few times.

The main thing to understand about Surya Bonaly’s career as a skater is that figure skating is racist as fuck and she never fit the image of a skater, to judges or to commentators. Race and colorism were a huge fucking factor in how she was evaluated and discussed—she’s French, born in Nice, but her (white) adoptive parents lied and said she was born off Madagascar and abandoned by her birth parents to make her seem more ~exotic~, to give you an idea.

Commentators were especially horrid to her and loved to praise her for her “athletic” style but would always criticize her for not being ~artistic~ enough and she always got dinged on artistic presentation. She would always do well in the short program on technical marks and then the long program would be her achilles heel because of how heavily artistic presentation was weighted. (For the younger among you, this is pre-SLC so this is when the old judging system was still being used.) 

More proof of how fucked skating is: Surya is also the only woman to my knowledge to ever land a quad toe loop in competition or even attempt one and to this day they don’t want to credit her with actually landing it, because all four rotations were not completed in air. Granted, there is a fair case to be made that it was only a triple, but don’t doubt that race played a role in that. They hated on this woman from the minute she got on the ice.

And yes, she landed that famous backflip on one blade at the 98 Olympics in her long program as one last FU to the system that had been fucking her for her whole career. Which is the real reason you should know who she is, tbh. Never was there a badder bitch on ice.

I remember when my mother threw her slipper at a television when Surya was receiving her marks in 1994 at Lillehammer.

Why yes. I will reblog Surya Bonaly.

And it’s not just youth, either. I was following figure skating pretty closely in the 1990s and my wife and I still have these moments like, “What was her name…that skater from France with the backflip…” “OH! I know exactly who you’re talking about, but I can’t remember…was it…” “Did it start with an S, maybe?”

But she was awesome. Now, I certainly agree with the above poster on the “figure skating is racist as fuck” thing, but that’s far from the only way in which the fuckedness of Olympic figure skating manifested itself in the 90s. In addition to not being able to get over Surya’s African descent, there was this rigid adherence to a particular feminine ideal of body type and style that was a disadvantage to any woman whose self-presentation was ‘too’ athletic and insufficiently pretty. You could get away with that if you were Katarina Witt and you sexed up the judges just as hard as you could the whole time you were out there, but otherwise, they had a real preference for slender and willowy. Same aesthetic that governs ballet, and whose psychotic enforcement by the men in charge makes the film _Black Swan_ so unbelievably painful that I could barely get through it.

Then there’s the ways in which my favorite pairs team, Shen and Zhao, got penalized by European and American judges over and over again for their programs not conforming to Western ideas of romance. They were so wedded to the heterosexual romance narrative as the template for evaluating these routines. I’d be listening to them talk about how they don’t have enough ‘artistic expression’ and yelling at the TV, “Did you fucking SEE that throw jump? Forget ‘romance.’ THEY CAN FLY!”

Sorry. I guess my feels about this are still strong within me.

Just want to point out that privileging a specific body type (slender and willowy) can also be racist. Black (and Latina & Native) female bodies are REGULARLY and ROUTINELY attacked for being too sexual or too masculine (or too fat, see criticisms of the Williams Sisters & Taylor Townsend in the predominantly white world of tennis, frex). There are a handful of sports that are still coded incredibly white (and wealthy), and figure skating is one of them (along with tennis, ballet, and dressage). So bodies perceived as non-white or not-white-enough get dinged for being “wrong”— for being too sexy, too muscled, too square, too squat, too whatever— and that is used as an excuse to score the performer lower. Wrong body. Wrong artistry. Wrong.

Sorry, I didn’t mean to imply that the body ideal thing is separable from racism, but I can see how from that comment it looks like I did. I guess my point was that this demand to conform to that body ideal impacts everyone in the sport, though I am sure it was and remains a much bigger problem for skaters who aren’t white. In fact, as I think about it, the only other ladies’ figure skater of African descent that I can remember hitting the big time was Debi Thomas; and she took a lot of crap about her ‘style’ too.

Since I don’t follow figure skating any more I have no idea whether it’s different now, but my guess is no. 

I wasn’t trying to CORRECT you or anything, I just think it’s a thing that (white) people OFTEN over look, to the point where you have an elite athlete like Taylor Townsend castigated for “being fat” when she’s an incredibly active well-muscled person. The Williams sisters both got this, in addition to having people mock their bodies by, like, sticking cushions under their pants to “dress up” as them. You know? CF also Nicki Minaj getting shit for her cover of “Anaconda” while similar images grace the cover of Sports Illustrated: Swimsuit Edition with no shocked outcry.

For me later.

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unirainbowllamacorn:

voidethered:

ask-omnipony:

luckydreaming:

Are fedoras really that bad?

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YES YES THEY ARE

I don’t really believe this mumbo jumbo

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I mean it’s a goddamn hat.

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Right..?

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The white rose, it symbolizes the unique beauty of all the women who wish not to be with a nice guy such as myse-

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I wonder if this works with other kinds of hat…

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Nothing ventured, nothing gained…

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WHEEEN THE MOON HITS YOUR EYE LIKE A BIG PIZZA PIE THAT’S AMORREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

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ITS HERE AGAIN

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Anonymous said: What are the signs of emotional abuse?

the-goddamazon:

mental-health-advice:

Abusive Expectations - Makes impossible demands, requires constant attention, and constantly criticizes.

Aggressing - Name calling, accusing, blames, threatens or gives orders, and often disguised as a judgmental “I know best” or “helping” attitude.

Constant Chaos - Deliberately starts arguments with you or others. May treat you well in front of others, but changes when you’re alone.

Rejecting - Refusing to acknowledge a person’s value, worth or presence. Communicating that he or she is useless or inferior or devaluing his or her thoughts and feelings.

Denying - Denies personal needs (especially when need is greatest) with the intent of causing hurt or as punishment. Uses silent treatment as punishment. Denies certain events happened or things that were said. Denies your perceptions, memory and sanity by disallowing any viewpoints other than their own which causes self-doubt, confusion, and loss of self-esteem.

Degrading - Any behavior that diminishes the identity, worth or dignity of the person such as: name-calling, mocking, teasing, insulting, ridiculing,

Emotional Blackmail - Uses guilt, compassion, or fear to get what he or she wants.

Terrorizing - Inducing intense fear or terror in a person, by threats or coercion.

Invalidation - Attempts to distort your perception of the world by refusing to acknowledge your personal reality. Says that your emotions and perceptions aren’t real and shouldn’t be trusted.

Isolating - Reducing or restricting freedom and normal contact with others.

Corrupting - Convincing a person to accept and engage in illegal activities.

Exploiting - Using a person for advantage or profit.

Minimizing - A less extreme form of denial that trivializes something you’ve expressed as unimportant or inconsequential.

Unpredictable Responses - Gets angry and upset in a situation that would normally not warrant a response. You walk around on eggshells to avoid any unnecessary drama over innocent comments you make. Drastic mood swings and outbursts.

Gaslighting -A form of psychological abuse involving the manipulation of situations or events that cause a person to be confused or to doubt his perceptions and memories. Gaslighting causes victims to constantly second-guess themselves and wonder if they’re losing their minds.

Love, Salem

The last one is a killer and very important.

15-Year-Old African Kid Tells Madonna To Go ‘Have Sex’ with Herself

almightykushlord:

Dakarai Molokomme, a 15-year-old starving child from a small village in Zimbabwe, has just told , one of the most famous pop stars in the world, to  and f*** , the local media are reporting exclusively.

“Yes, it’s true, I told Madonna to go f*** herself. Do you want to know why?” Dakarai asked. “It’s the same thing every time with these snobby rich Americans. Every once in a while they come to show us their support for the so-called eradication of poverty by adopting a child from a starving family, but they actually do more harm than good. Transracial international adoptions are part of the white savior industrial complex,” Dakarai explained.

In further discussions with journalists from the media, the  stated that “none of the children here actually want to be taken away from their family and friends so they can be displayed as some kind of trophy in the homes of self-righteous singers or actors who want to score some points with the media and Oprah.”

“If they really want to help us, they should get Big Pharma to ship us some anti-retroviral drugs for the AIDS epidemic, or build schools and hospitals. If they don’t want to do that, then they can all go f** themselves!” the child told reporters.

The 15-year-old also stated that he would say the same thing to any one of those American or European “faux humanitarian posers”, except for Bono, whom he said he would also kick in the groin.

“Bono’s efforts to save the African savage from itself prove that the colonial imperative is alive and well,” Dakarai said as he walked with other village children collecting sticks to build a tree fort.

THIS IS THE RAWEST 15 YEAR OLD ALIVE

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pro-choicer: here, these are nonbiased/scientific sources that prove that your claim is wrong
anti-choicer: NOPE SORRY NO I DON'T BELIEVE YOU
pro-choicer: but you're literally being proved wrong
anti-choicer: NO
pro-choicer: this is a prime example as to why your movement is completely based on emotions and not one bit on scientific fact
anti-choicer: YOU'RE WRONG ABORTION IS EVIL!!1!!1!!1

What if
all women were bigger and stronger than you
and thought they were smarter

What if
women were the ones who started wars

What if
too many of your friends had been raped by women wielding giant dildos
and no K-Y Jelly

What if
the state trooper
who pulled you over on the New Jersey Turnpike
was a woman
and carried a gun

What if
the ability to menstruate
was the prerequisite for most high-paying jobs

What if
your attractiveness to women depended
on the size of your penis

What if
every time women saw you
they’d hoot and make jerking motions with their hands

What if
women were always making jokes
about how ugly penises are
and how bad sperm tastes

What if
you had to explain what’s wrong with your car
to big sweaty women with greasy hands
who stared at your crotch
in a garage where you are surrounded
by posters of naked men with hard-ons

What if
men’s magazines featured cover photos
of 14-year-old boys
with socks
tucked into the front of their jeans
and articles like:
“How to tell if your wife is unfaithful”
or
“What your doctor won’t tell you about your prostate”
or
“The truth about impotence”

What if
the doctor who examined your prostate
was a woman
and called you “Honey”

What if
you had to inhale your boss’s stale cigar breath
as she insisted that sleeping with her
was part of the job

What if
you couldn’t get away because
the company dress code required
you wear shoes
designed to keep you from running

And what if
after all that
women still wanted you
to love them.

For the Men Who Still Don’t Get It, written 20 years ago by Carol Diehl. 

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twenty goddamn years ago

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